Love...as i grow up and experience it more, i think i understand it better. A lot of it is a reflection on me, my insecurities and weaknesses and strengths. Once I can step back and realise my reactions in that light, hopefully things will get better! A good relationship should help me understand myself better when in it. Unlike my last one, when I understood myself better once it had finished (and he did too).
Zadie Smith put it very eloqouently, as usual: love sets you free...the discovery of self in and through another....when you understand, and are understood by, another human being. This century, "self-actualisation" is the aim, and if you can't do it alone you are admitting a weakness. (She was talking about Zora Neale Hurston's book Their Eyes Were Watching God)
It's interesting as there's currently a real push both towards the individual and also back to the community, as social networking sites have proved. But I suppose the indivdual is nothing without recognition from the group. Social networking sites do serve just to highlight you and how many friends you have and thus how popular you are...it makes all your interactions public, so you're social life is really on show. Better than grand entrances in fancy cars and talking loudly on your Vertu diamond-encrusted mobile phone...oh dahling, how sad we are....can't we just accept that we need each other and we are social and dependent beings? And that that's OK, in fact, it's great!
Zadie Smith put it very eloqouently, as usual: love sets you free...the discovery of self in and through another....when you understand, and are understood by, another human being. This century, "self-actualisation" is the aim, and if you can't do it alone you are admitting a weakness. (She was talking about Zora Neale Hurston's book Their Eyes Were Watching God)
It's interesting as there's currently a real push both towards the individual and also back to the community, as social networking sites have proved. But I suppose the indivdual is nothing without recognition from the group. Social networking sites do serve just to highlight you and how many friends you have and thus how popular you are...it makes all your interactions public, so you're social life is really on show. Better than grand entrances in fancy cars and talking loudly on your Vertu diamond-encrusted mobile phone...oh dahling, how sad we are....can't we just accept that we need each other and we are social and dependent beings? And that that's OK, in fact, it's great!
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